Love is a very relative term. It can mean a lot of things and it can be shown in a lot of ways. There is a general theory among elders (particularly people belonging to the 20th century) that touching, hugging, kissing is not the way of showing love. Rather, they want children to act upon it. They want us to clean the house, study hard, massage my mother's legs and so on. What they don't seem to understand is there is a lot of power in a hug and a kiss. And me hugging my mother and telling her that I love her does not mean that I don't respect her or I don't draw inspiration from her. For that matter, talking to her freely, sharing my inner most feelings, calling her my best friend are a few things that generation has never heard of and I pity them. There is nothing like the insight of your mother on dangerous subjects like the future. She has been there and done that. So that closeness will not only help you understand life from a different perspective, but it will also relieve you from the burden of holding something only to yourself.
My mother could never tell hers that she had a crush on a boy or that a guy on the road looked hot. Because they were taught that that was disrespect to the parent. What I don't understand is how has being close to your mother that you tell her everything anything to do with respecting her? I respect my mother and she knows that but there is also a level of comfort due to which I can talk about anything and everything to her. I think that is something very special that most of the kids in the past generation have missed out.
Just like how you don't like me hugging her and letting her know that I love her, I don't like falling on her feet to tell her that I respect her, but I still make sure that I do that because you ask me to or because it makes you happy. Just the same way, respect my decision of giving my mom the 'touch therapy' once in a while because I know that even though she pushes me away every single time, it makes her feel special and it makes her feel happy.
Aishwarya Kumar
My mother could never tell hers that she had a crush on a boy or that a guy on the road looked hot. Because they were taught that that was disrespect to the parent. What I don't understand is how has being close to your mother that you tell her everything anything to do with respecting her? I respect my mother and she knows that but there is also a level of comfort due to which I can talk about anything and everything to her. I think that is something very special that most of the kids in the past generation have missed out.
Just like how you don't like me hugging her and letting her know that I love her, I don't like falling on her feet to tell her that I respect her, but I still make sure that I do that because you ask me to or because it makes you happy. Just the same way, respect my decision of giving my mom the 'touch therapy' once in a while because I know that even though she pushes me away every single time, it makes her feel special and it makes her feel happy.
Aishwarya Kumar
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